Spring Moments

It’s been a long time since I’ve posted. Hello Dear Friends who have chosen to follow the misadventures AminaKalera!! I have four classes left until graduation. I’m sure some of you can appreciate what it’s like being this close to the finish line and wondering…… WHAT NOW!!PAMM1
This is when most people would say the rest of their life begins. However for some it’s when the reality of the real word set in. This is the moment when we find ourselves thrown into the wild surrounded by student loans and looking for that perfect job which will give us financial security. Yet sometimes these very thoughts that we need to process can leave us feeling very overwhelmed. To that I say Thank God for Spring Break.PAMM3
This year I had two mind blowing trips planned for my break. The first being three beautiful days in Miami solo wondering around. What I will say is three days isn’t nearly enough time to see and do everything in the Miami area. However one place you most go to is the Jorge M. Perez Art Museum (also known as PAMM). It’s full of vibrate and abstract works of art. Some of which I believe could move the coldest hearts.PAMM4

The outside of the museum is a reflection of the inside.The equally have displayed alluring architecture. This structure is just sexy, sitting right off the water allowing for a pleasant view and cooling wind to breeze across your face.

Another highlight of this trip was heading over to Vizcaya. Sadly I didn’t have enough time to tour the house, but the grounds were fill sculptures all over and lush landscape. I ended up spending a brilliant time dance with strangers, and after the first few awkward moment of stepping of toes…. I finally found my rhythm among the Latin tempo. I swayed, turned, bounced, and lots all sensibility of time on the floor. Miami was an enlightening experience.


Oil Pulling w/ Coconut Oil, how it’s done.

1About a few months ago I wrote a post about coconut oil and how I have kind of falling in love with it. I briefly talked about some of the things you could use coconut oil for including health benefits such as oil pulling.

Well I had a request to dig a little deeper into the whole oil pulling experience… here I am.

What is Oil Pulling and how does it Work?

Oil pulling involves putting about a tablespoon of oil in your mouth, then swishing it around your teeth for 15-20 minutes. There are thousands of different types of bacteria in the mouth. Some of them are friendly, others are not. Certain bacteria can cause harm, such as Streptococcus Mutans, which is the main culprit behind plaque buildup, gingivitis and cavities.

So how does oil pulling work?

When you swish the oil around your mouth, the bacteria sticks to the oil and dissolve in the liquid oil. You end up removing a large amount of the bacteria and plaque in your mouth each time you do this. (Whoop whoop)
oil pullingHow to Oil Pull.

1. Put about a tablespoon of oil in your mouth. (If you’re using a solid form of coconut oil, you may have to chew it a few times before it melts.)
2. Swish the oil around your mouth for about 10-20 minutes.
3. Spit out the oil, and then brush your teeth. (Don’t spit it don’t the sink as it can solidify and block drains, spit into a bin instead)

It is best to do this on an empty stomach, before you brush your teeth. (Try doing this in the morning while you’re in the shower or getting ready for the day ahead.)
It’s important to spit out the oil. You don’t want to swallow it because it is full of bacteria and whatnot.

Here’s what to Expect.

After a few days you will notice your breath is fresher and teeth look a lot cleaner (both whiter and shinier.)
Oil pulling is effective at reducing the harmful bacteria in your mouth which improves oral and dental health.
However if you have dental fillings the oil may loosen them and they most likely will fall out.

Can Art be Therapeutic?



Maybe a month ago I did a post about stressing over the things you can’t control. I admitted to being someone who worries about the unforeseen. I mentioned planting my worries and even sorrows into the earth to see if they would bloom into something beautiful.

However I live in an apartment complex and I might need to move into a house before I start my own garden of thoughts.

So what have I been doing to keep myself calm??

Finshed Product

Finshed Product

Painting. I’ve been taking an intro to painting class twice a week at my school. (Go Spartans) Oddly enough it keeps my nerves in check. What’s funny is before I started painting I was taking pottery. Which I loved, but my nails didn’t love it. Soon after that I took glass fusion where I toyed around and made some plates. Glass Fusion is a craft I think I would like to refine. I made some pretty great things for an amateur.

Painting is doing the same thing for me as pottery and glass.  It giving

New Still-Life

New Still-Life

a place to put all the extra energy I’ve been using to worry about needless things.

Art for me is Therapy and I’m sure loads cheaper than going to sit on someone’s couch for a conversation.

How do you express yourself? How do you use negative energy to turn it into something positive?

Why stress over the things you can’t control?

WorriesI am one of those people who is always worried. I find myself  stressing internally about almost everything. I’m talking about worrying to the point where there is the sick, aching feeling, deep within myself.

Why is it that I find myself contemplating over things I have no control over?  If I write my worries down and plant them in the earth will something beautiful blossom in its wake?

I normally try and focus on the next task at hand. Tonight that would be heading to my first day of class for the spring semesters. Luckily I’ll be taking something a bit creative (Intro to Painting). Strangely enough I have never painted a day in my life so wish me luck.

When you feel this way what do you do?

Meeting Joyce Jones aka Mama Joyce

Mama Joyce

Mama Joyce

Most people don’t know that Real Housewives of Atlanta cast member Mama Joyce Jones had two children: a son named Patrick who died at 22 due in a head-on collision and the attractive and talented Kandi Burruss, who was 15 at the time. So when I asked Jones if she is a bit overprotective of her one and only child, of course, she answered yes.

For those of you who have been keeping up with the hullabaloo of the Bravo reality series, Jones has been typecast as someone who is rude and disrespectful when it comes to her daughter’s relationship with fiancé, Todd Tucker.

During a recent phone interview, however, she showed a kindlier, more gentle side, and provided some context not provided in the show.

When her daughter Burruss appeared on Watch What Happens Live, hosted by Andy Cohn, Burruss  told Cohn that her mother Jones wasn’t speaking to her. Cohn had fellow cast member Cynthia Bailey, on a previous episode with Sandra Bernhard and due to a comment made by fellow cast member it cause the mother and daughter to be on the outs.

“Sandra asked,  who takes care of me,” recounted Jones, “and Cynthia replied, ‘I believe Kandi does.’ She knows that’s not true.” Shorty after hearing this, Jones called Burruss and asked her to call into the show and correct the comment that was made. Burruss declined to do so, asking that Jones let it go and not make a big deal out of it. “Kandi doesn’t take care of me. I have savings, social security, and rental property along with the insurance money from when my son passed away. I didn’t waste it like most people. I put that money in bonds. I don’t need Kandi to take care of me. I take care of myself.”

The same evening Burruss was on “WWHL”, a caller asked the same thing that was on the minds of many people who tune into “RHOA”. Did Kandi think her mother’s fear or dislike of Todd stem from her not being able to have access to any of Kandi’s money? Kandi’s emotional breakdown in defense of her mother caused quite a stir. “I don’t care if she doesn’t like my relationship that’s my mom. I don’t care what you guys have to say, that’s my mama.  And I’m going to make sure my mama is good.” As Kandi’s voice broke.

A wary Jones explains how upsetting it was to see her child crying and hurt, but it affected her more so because this particular wound was caused by what people think of her. “People think I’m only in her business because I’m worried about money. It hurts me”

With all the drama that has been going on, it left me wondering how it would affect the youngest member of the family-Kandi’s daughter, Riley. According to Jones, Riley is doing well; she is a quiet child and doesn’t say too much about what’s going on. We still spend time together, she comes over and I’ll cook. I’m still grandma.

And for all those wondering about where things stand now, Burruss and Jones are speaking. In fact they spent time together for New Years and even sat down for a game of pokeno with the family. No, Todd wasn’t there.

As far as the relationship between Mama Joyce and Tucker, “I’m cordial but I honestly haven’t seen him since he worked on Kandi’s play. It was a Kandi Burruss and Todd Tucker production, but funded solely by Kandi.”

Jones explained it’s not that she doesn’t like Tucker; it’s more about not liking his work ethic. According to Jones when Burruss and Tucker decided to go public about their relationship, he was a producer on the show. They would have to meet with Bravo and he would have to stop working for them. Not long after leaving production for RHOA, Tucker worked on Kim and Kroy and then he took two months off work claiming he had some money saved. “Who does that?” said Jones.

As far as the foolishness that happened between Jones and Burruss’ long time friend and assistant, Carmen, Jones definitely had a” shoulda, coulda, woulda” moment. “I wish I could have changed what happened at the bridal shop and to anyone that I hurt or offended, I’m sorry.  If I could take it all back I would.” However she also stated that due to editing, we didn’t see the full story. What we saw looks like one big incident but it wasn’t at all.

Mama Joyce and The Mystery Man

Mama Joyce and The Mystery Man

By the end of our conversation I had a better understanding and even appreciation for Jones. I’m sure most of us have had blow-ups with a parental figure about someone we are dating. Yes, things could have been handled better looking back on them. However last time I checked, we were all human and made mistakes. “If Kandi is happy, I’m happy and I hope Todd can be the man she deserves,” said Jones.

And for all who were curious whether Mama Joyce has a man of her own, the answer is yes. Her gentleman caller who she didn’t refer to by name has been courting her for a year and a half, although they have been friends for 16 years. The one piece of advice she gave was this,” If you are pushing or selling a product then reality TV is the place to be, but if you are happily married or in a happy partnership, emphasis  on happy, then reality TV is not for you. With that being said, viewers shouldn’t look forward to seeing her fellow on the show if she has anything to say about it.”


New Year’s Resolutions!

I Resolve To......

When you sit down and look at the list you created for last year’s resolutions, how many of them did you keep? Last year I just had 7 things I wanted:

  1. To work on me and the goals I set for myself.
  2. Remain single
  3.  Make great glass fusion pieces
  4.  Lose 30 pounds
  5.  Keep negativity away from my personal space.
  6. Cut sugar out of my tea
  7. Stop meeting JERKS

We all make some sort of promises to ourselves, this isn’t new. Hell, it’s more of a tradition or ritual at this point than something we really seriously.

“Insanity: doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”-Albert Einstein

What Einstein is saying is we can’t continue doing the same thing in hopes of getting a different result. If you did, maybe you should be content with failure.

So this year I think I will kick resolutions to the curb. Looking back on my year it wasn’t all horrible. It was actually pretty great. I didn’t lose 30 pounds, but I did lose weight. My goal will be to work out more than twice a week. Even if that means having a gym bag locked away in the truck of my car. I’ll stop worrying about where I thought I would be at this point in life and feel great about the progress I’m making every day. Not everyone reached their dream last year, but I did.

Well good luck to me having a better 2014 than 2013

At the Stroke of Midnight

Chapter 1What were you doing at the stroke of Midnight? Were you kissing loved ones with excitement as you entered the dawn of a new year? Maybe you were like me…. passed out in bed by 11:34pm.

I didn’t see midnight.

 I didn’t watch the fireworks.

 There was no times square or a ball drop.

 Instead I was wrapped up dreaming with a fluffy black and white cat purring beside me. When 2013 turned into 2014, I was set adrift into my own subconscious. It wasn’t were I thought I’d be, but the thought of going out and being submerged in a sea of people wasn’t appealing to me either. So I slept and when I work it was already a new year.

How did you spend your last moments of last year? Were you were you wanted to be?