Can Art be Therapeutic?

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Maybe a month ago I did a post about stressing over the things you can’t control. I admitted to being someone who worries about the unforeseen. I mentioned planting my worries and even sorrows into the earth to see if they would bloom into something beautiful.

However I live in an apartment complex and I might need to move into a house before I start my own garden of thoughts.

So what have I been doing to keep myself calm??

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Finshed Product

Painting. I’ve been taking an intro to painting class twice a week at my school. (Go Spartans) Oddly enough it keeps my nerves in check. What’s funny is before I started painting I was taking pottery. Which I loved, but my nails didn’t love it. Soon after that I took glass fusion where I toyed around and made some plates. Glass Fusion is a craft I think I would like to refine. I made some pretty great things for an amateur.

Painting is doing the same thing for me as pottery and glass.  It giving

New Still-Life

New Still-Life

a place to put all the extra energy I’ve been using to worry about needless things.

Art for me is Therapy and I’m sure loads cheaper than going to sit on someone’s couch for a conversation.

How do you express yourself? How do you use negative energy to turn it into something positive?

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Why stress over the things you can’t control?

WorriesI am one of those people who is always worried. I find myself  stressing internally about almost everything. I’m talking about worrying to the point where there is the sick, aching feeling, deep within myself.

Why is it that I find myself contemplating over things I have no control over?  If I write my worries down and plant them in the earth will something beautiful blossom in its wake?

I normally try and focus on the next task at hand. Tonight that would be heading to my first day of class for the spring semesters. Luckily I’ll be taking something a bit creative (Intro to Painting). Strangely enough I have never painted a day in my life so wish me luck.

When you feel this way what do you do?

20 Great Moments of 2013

2013 was the year I found apart of myself. I found love, laughter, happiness, and heartbreak, all in 365 days. According to Facebook I’ve only had 20 great moments worth remembering. I thought I would share what these moments were.

  1. I had silly adventures finding organic lady apples, hanging out with a guy and his bird, and walking up Bay Shore.Lady Apples
  2. Celebrated my mother turning another year wiser.Happy Bday mom
  3. My bestie didn’t want to be a ride or die chick, instead she wanted to be a go to work and call you later chick 😉Ride or Die
  4. In mid-February I displayed random positive thoughts out into the universeFind Joy
  5. Lauren C.Late March Lauren C came home and we partied like adults and not college girls at MacDinton’s Irish Pub…lol
  6. Early April Lisa and I took on the Pilipino Festival. Tired some traditional food, watched some beautiful performances, and bought a few keepsakes.PhilFest
  7. Lil ReggieSpent some time with my face man (Little Reggie)
  8. Attending my pre-graduation event.Pre-Graduation
  9. 2013 GraduationAnd in May although I had already received my AA Diploma, I still walked the stage.
  10. Thanks Family and Friends for their supportGraduation
  11. final gradesGot final grades in, which were all B’s
  12. Attending Lauren E’s graduation and met the family.lauren E Grad
  13. In June I started interning at Creative Loafing.
  14. 28I celebrated turning 28 with friends, drinks, a new tattoo, and brunch… I also fell in love
  15. Went on a tour of The Ledger Media Group.ledger
  16. coverMade the Cover of Creative Loafing
  17. In October I became a part of the walking dead and attacked my mother.zombie
  18. Had my heartbroken and spent 2-3 weeks being very EMO
  19. nutcracker twistFinally saw the Chocolate Nutcracker, now known at The Nutcracker Twist
  20. And Christmas Eve got a quick class on making a ring, attending a festive Holiday Party, and attending Art After Dark.ring

At the end of each year many of us seem to reflect on what was and what to do next. I, like many others do the same thing. I try hard not to focus on the friendships that were lost, the heartbreak that was felt and the nights of sleep I missed due to stressing over things I have no control over whatsoever. Life is an ever growing and changing internal process. All we can do is strive to do and be better. Fight for the dreams we have and prove to ourselves that we are worth more than what we may think. Stop allowing others to treat you like you are dispensable, YOU AREN’T. Value you, the person you are and align yourself with positive people who are doing positive things.

So what did I take from this year? Mostly that I have a great inner circle of friends. That the things or people we want aren’t always what we need. As I end this chapter on 2013’s 365-days I resolve to take things day by day, to not allow the little things get under my skin, and to release the negative things and people as so that I don’t carry that into the following year.

Happy New Year’s All.

Summer Loving (Long-Distance Relationships)

Image“Summer lovin’ had me a blast – summer lovin’ happened so fast – met some girl, crazy for me – met a guy, cute as can be – summer days drifted away – to oh, the summer nights”

Seriously who doesn’t love that song?

Officially summer is almost over, and the fall term will be starting in 26 days. For some it’s the ending of a beautiful romance filled with hot sandy days at the beach and long nights wrapped in your lover’s arms. Others, however, will try and go the extra mile and make their long-distance tryst into something more.

So here is the question; can long distance relationships really work?

I’m always amazed at the few people I know who tend to make things work. Personally I need a little face to face time with my beau. There is always so much to account for when distance is an issue:

  • Communication Breakdowns (Thanks to technology this has become easier to handle)
  • Future Unseen (If you aren’t moving in the same direction even if you have separate paths… you clearly aren’t going to be meeting at the same train station)
  • Trust (Relationships end everyday due to trust issues whether it’s perceived or real. Any healthy partnership requires devotion, ethical grounding, and a moral compass)
  • Return vs. Time (Are you getting a return on the time you’re putting in calling, e-mailing, texting, and traveling to make things work?)
  • Expectations (What you want, what they want, what we want as a couple…. Be on the same page)

There is nothing in life that doesn’t require work. This always includes going the extra mile for a relationship that you feel is worth it. If just the thought of the few things I mentioned here is enough to send you running for the hills…… Maybe you should ask yourself what in life is worth your hard work and dedication?

Not a Dinner and Movie Kind of Night: Date Night Ideas

Oh date night, the thought of you can bring such joy and horrifying tears to some. Anything can happen from meeting the love of your life to filing a restraining order against your blind date with the creepy killer eyes. Either way the whole Dinner and a Movie things is overrated and over done-surely there is something more creative you can spend your time doing.

So for those looking for a few good ideas, try these and have fun mixing and matching.

 

Wake up at 4am & watch the sunrise together
I don’t think this is first, second or third date material, but perhaps on the fourth. What could be better than sitting close on a rooftop somewhere, talking & laughing & watching the sun come up? Take a flask of hot coffee for extra points.

Go to an art gallery on a Saturday afternoon
You’ll learn a lot about the person you’re standing next to if you go & check out art together. Plus it gives you something so much more stimulating to talk about than the last episode of Dancing with the Stars or Love and Hip Hop Atlanta!

Mix CD trade
Yes I know that mix CDs are antiquates, so grab your iPhone or iPod and make your maybe your playlist there… Either way, sharing & discussing music is one of the world’s great guilty pleasures.

Do something neither of you have done before
Pottery class? Swing dancing lessons? Hiring a moped & driving out into the country? Who knows, but it’s nice to share an experience that is new to both of you!

Pretend to be tourists
Go & do the stuff you’ve never done because, well, you’ve always lived here. Wear a baseball cap, khakis & maybe a back pack with a map in hand for a feeling of real authenticity, & don’t forget to take plenty of photos!

Karaoke!
I love the idea of karaoke; you’ll instantly know how outgoing your date is based on how they meet this challenge. You’ll also get to see what their music taste is like. Plus, usually in my experience, a day-glo private room & weird drinks are part of the package. Who could say no to that?

Make cupcakes together
You know you want to.

Play truth or dare
Awesome.

7 Rules

My mom sent me the 7 rules of life so that I can remain on a positive path.  I try very hard to surround myself with people who know my worth, people who appreciate me for exactly who I am.  I hope whoever is reading this can find the same and find growth from this.

 

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Here’s the T (Tips/Tricks)

Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present

What others think of you is none of your business

Time heals almost everything, give it time.

Don’t compare your life to others and don’t judge them. You have no idea what their journey is all about.

Stop thinking too much, it’s alright not to know the answers. They will come to you when you least expect it.

No one is in charge of your happiness, except you

Smile. You don’t own all the problems in the world.